What’s Going on With My 11th Grader?

By the time your teenager reaches the 11th grade year, they are living like a mini-adult. But they still need your guidance. To help you with that, here is a look at what is happening in the world of your 11th grader.


  • Boys and girls have fully developed
    physically into their adult bodies.
  • Sexual desire is awakened, and the temptation to be sexually active is common.
  • Stress is a very real physical struggle as they work, perform in school, and prepare for
    the future.


The 11th grader may:

  • Begin to be very sentimental as they anticipate life change
  • Experience calmer moods than in
    previous years
  • Have a desire for more control over aspects of their life
  • Exhibit impulsive behavior with friends
    and peers
  • Not respond to adult lectures, feeling they know better what is going on than the
    adult does
  • Be more capable of taking care of others


  • Integrating both physical and emotional intimacy into relationships begins.
  • Friends that share beliefs, values, and interests are sought.
  • Less time may be spent with family, while more time may be spent with peers.
  • Peers influence them to try risky behaviors, such as experimenting with alcohol, tobacco, etc.
  • The relationship with parents is more of a support system.
  • They begin to feel freedom to express themselves as individuals.


  • In regards to faith, they value the annual traditions of their student ministry, church, and family.
  • They can handle the responsibility of most service positions in the church.
  • They have a greater interest in serving others and in making a difference in the world.
  • There is more planning and preparation for the future.
  • Role models are developed that inspire them either toward or away from faith.
  • Their capacity for self-discipline increases.
  • They begin to imagine what life would be like as an adult away from their parents, and they begin deciding whether or not their faith will be a part of that.
  • There is a temptation to “have their fun now” and be responsible later.