What’s Going on With My 11th Grader?
By the time your teenager reaches the 11th grade year, they are living like a mini-adult. But they still need your guidance. To help you with that, here is a look at what is happening in the world of your 11th grader.
- Boys and girls have fully developed
physically into their adult bodies.
- Sexual desire is awakened, and the temptation to be sexually active is common.
- Stress is a very real physical struggle as they work, perform in school, and prepare for
The 11th grader may:
- Begin to be very sentimental as they anticipate life change
- Experience calmer moods than in
- Have a desire for more control over aspects of their life
- Exhibit impulsive behavior with friends
- Not respond to adult lectures, feeling they know better what is going on than the
- Be more capable of taking care of others
- Integrating both physical and emotional intimacy into relationships begins.
- Friends that share beliefs, values, and interests are sought.
- Less time may be spent with family, while more time may be spent with peers.
- Peers influence them to try risky behaviors, such as experimenting with alcohol, tobacco, etc.
- The relationship with parents is more of a support system.
- They begin to feel freedom to express themselves as individuals.
- In regards to faith, they value the annual traditions of their student ministry, church, and family.
- They can handle the responsibility of most service positions in the church.
- They have a greater interest in serving others and in making a difference in the world.
- There is more planning and preparation for the future.
- Role models are developed that inspire them either toward or away from faith.
- Their capacity for self-discipline increases.
- They begin to imagine what life would be like as an adult away from their parents, and they begin deciding whether or not their faith will be a part of that.
- There is a temptation to “have their fun now” and be responsible later.